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So here’s come the question of the day. Do you learn how to love or do you instantly love a person? In other words do you always have to spend time with him/her in order to grow feelings for that person, feelings that may look more like appreciation, respect and admire than love or can you love a person for who he/she really is without growing old together. I’m not referring to love at first sight which I don’t think it’s actually possible. And also I think there is an urgent need I make some things clear. For me love and being in love/falling in love are two different things, love is the pure emotion that you can experience when you care about someone enough to sacrifice your own happiness and life. It’s the feeling that makes you smile and think positive, it makes everything looks brighter and , it liberates your soul and makes your eyes shine and speak for themselves. Love is never jealous and selfish. Love is a combination of emotions it includes respect, admire, passion, solicitude, affection, security and trust. Love is easy to be distinguished from lust and passion. Love has to do with care and solicitude while passion and lust have to do with hormones and youth. Pure love talks to people’s hearts and keep them beating and as a guy’s once told me,

Your love keeps my heart beating and it’s beating so fast.

That’s to prove that you’re alive and you can feel things both with your heart and your mind. Love is sensible it may lives in your heart but it doesn’t affect your mind in a bad way, you may be unable to moderate your heart but you can always moderate your mind. Love is a fire that inspires you.

While being in love and falling in love is completely different. Well, in Greek there are two different words for love and being in love. It’s Agape (for love) and Erotas (for being in love). The Greeks have the word for it. Hahaha. It’s not hard to separate those two feelings. To be more specific, you know that you are in love when you can’t control yourself and your actions, when you just can’t stop thinking about a person, when you think that your heart will stop beating and you can’t speak or move every time you look at his/her eyes. In addition to love your soul is not exactly liberate, I would say that it serves an attachment. Falling in love with a person is not always a bad thing but it’s certainly not as magical as love is. When you are in love you don’t care about anything and anyone you do crazy things cause you feel like doing them and you don’t regret doing them either. You want to spend every single minute of your life with that person, not to mention that you have plenty of pent up emotions and your feelings are ruled by instability of human affairs. You instantly miss him/her as soon as they are gone, then you hate them for leaving and in the end you can’t wait to see them again. Falling in love can be fun but it’s quite hard to deal with it when someone’s feelings start to fade away.

And that’s when we all wonder do real feelings fade away? and does love and “being in love” emotions go together?

As an answer to the second question I would say yes love and “being in love” emotions can go together. Especially when you have to do with teens and young people full of life and energy.

I suppose I should now answer the first question too. People claim that feelings do fade away and that time is a good friend. But I say yes time is a good friend and can be a great healer but feelings don’t fade away especially when they are pure and real feelings. Time only helps you forget, it doesn’t help you ruin the feelings you have grown for someone, it does make you forget and make a new beginning if that’s what you want but it doesn’t provide your heart with new feelings stronger than the ones you had so that they would fade away. So if it was to conclude I would say that feelings can’t fade away over one night and furthermore, you may not be able to rule your heart sometimes. Someone’s once told me that feelings are like hugging your heart and your soul. That’s why when you are in love you feel like giving your whole soul to the person you are in love with. Maybe she’s right. I don’t know for sure. Cause sometimes it doesn’t take you to fall in love with someone to be able to give him/her your soul.

So is love a delusion or is it an illusion or neither?

And can love make you delusional?